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  • Spinster September: Katherine Brooke of Summerside

    Spinster September: Katherine Brooke of Summerside

    I need more people talking about Katherine Brooke

    When I first heard of Spinster September, my mind went immediately to the Anne of Green Gables series. Specifically, to Anne of Windy Poplars, by L.M. Montgomery. I briefly reviewed this installment of the Anne series ten years ago. But, in light of Spinster September, I thought it was time to give the character of Katherine Brooke the attention she deserves.

    What is Spinster September?

    The topic #spinsterseptember was started by Nora (@pear.jelly on Instagram and @pear-jelly on BlueSky). Itโ€™s a call to celebrate literary spinsters and share their stories. So, of course, with a portion of this blog dedicated exclusively to that topic, I had to get in on it. Iโ€™ve been delighted to learn about so many new-to-me books featuring badass solo women. I might just start a Goodreads account to keep up with them all!

    I also have a lot to say on the topic, as you might imagine. And the first thing I need to talk about this Spinster September is perhaps my favorite literary spinster of all time, Katherine Brooke.

    Who is Katherine Brooke?

    In Anne of Windy Poplars, protagonist Anne Shirley moves to Summerside to work at the high school there. Sheโ€™s been hired as the schoolโ€™s principal, a position that the vice principalโ€”Katherine Brookeโ€”also applied for. Anne accepts Katherineโ€™s caustic remarks and spiteful behavior, believing that Katherine will warm up to her eventually. But if anything, her anger toward Anne only intensifies.

    Katherine is a strange character. She wears odd clothes that donโ€™t flatter her figure or complexion at all. She keeps her hair tied in a basic knotโ€”never wearing it in any particular style. Sheโ€™s cross with her students and, as a result, earns a bad reputation among them. And while she seems to have a particular dislike for Anne, she isnโ€™t on good terms with any of her colleagues. Though she earns a good salary, she lives in the cheapest, most uncomfortable boarding house available. She seems set on coming across as a miserable person to everyone.

    Several people advise Anne to give up making friends with her. But Anne Shirley is not one to back down from a challenge. She is determined to win Katherine over. So, when all her other attempts have failed, she resorts to her last, most desperate option; inviting Katherine to spend the Christmas holiday with her at Green Gables. And when she does, we see this sour old spinster in an entirely different light.

    A happily single, miserable woman

    After some harsh but honest words, Katherine opens up to Anne enough to accept her invitation to Green Gables. Over the holiday, she reveals why she dresses so poorly, why she lives so humbly, why she acts so acidic, and why sheโ€™s hated Anne so much. But she only does so once she learns that Anne spent the first eleven years of her life as an unloved orphan.

    It turns out, Katherine was also an unwanted child, who eventually ended up living with her uncleโ€™s family. He agreed to put her through school on the understanding that she would pay him back for everything. It took her years of โ€œscrimping,โ€ but she had just repaid the last of the loan. That explains her shabby clothes and the cheap boarding house.

    As to her hatred of Anne, it wasnโ€™t just due to the fact that Anne got the job Katherine wanted. Before visiting Green Gables, Katherine assumed Anneโ€™s life had always been easy. And she resented her for it. When she realizes that Anne can truly empathize with what sheโ€™s been through, sheโ€™s only too eager to bare her soul and share her griefs.

    Spinsterhood re-envisioned

    Suddenly, Katherine becomes a sympathetic character. She transforms from a spiteful old crone into a profoundly unhappy woman, desperate to escape a life she feels trapped in. She tells Anne that she can see her life stretching on ahead of her in unrelenting tedium and mediocrity. Her entire life, sheโ€™s wanted to travel, but it seems sheโ€™ll never leave Prince Edward Island.

    For Anne, however, the path ahead is never straight. Instead, thereโ€™s always a bend around which a new adventure waits. She insists that Katherine can be happy and have the things she wants. And, surrounded by the Christmastime magic of Green Gables, Katherine begins to wonder if itโ€™s possible.

    Anne, who is a 19th century fashionista, insists on getting Katherine into clothes that suit her. Iโ€™ve written before about why dressing well is important, and Anne understands the reason. Under her ministrations, Katherine realizes that she isnโ€™t the ugly, dowdy old spinster sheโ€™s long believed herself to be. Though she initially brushes it off as good lighting and a borrowed collar, Anne insists she can look this lovely all the time. โ€œThere are so many homely people who would actually look quite attractive if they took a little pains with themselves,โ€ she says.

    With one event after another, Katherine Brooke begins to develop a new kind of confidence. We learn that:

    A solo life of limitless potential

    The crowning moment comes on Christmas morning, when Anne gifts Katherine a puppy. Anne had secretly persuaded Katherineโ€™s strict landlord to let her have a dog. Now that Katherine has something she can love, she seems to lose all desire to guard her heart against friendship and hope.

    So much changed for her over that winter holiday, that Katherine begins to think that anything is possible. In a way, sheโ€™s reborn. Anneโ€™s friend lets Katherine hold her babyโ€”something she had never done before. Afterward, she tells Anne:

    Thatโ€™s what Katherine is over the winter holiday at Green Gables, as she โ€œblooms out.โ€ A brand-new bundle of potentialities.

    Why Katherine is my favorite fictional spinster

    So, what makes Katherine Brooke my personal pick for Spinster September? The book sheโ€™s in, Anne of Windy Poplars, isnโ€™t even about her. Sheโ€™s a side character with relatively little time on the page. For most of the book, sheโ€™s actually an antagonistโ€”a stereotype of the bitter old unmarried woman.

    Well, thatโ€™s precisely why. One of the reasons I love Katherine Brooke is because she starts out as an angry, resentful spinster. Many of us who end up living for the solo life go through a period of adjustment. Katherine doesnโ€™t want to be married, yet she resents Anne for being wanted where she was not. She hates teaching, yet that was one of the only professions available to women in Canada at the time, so thatโ€™s what she does. Her life is the result of dozens of compromises. So by the time she meets Anne, she feels that she will be in this unsatisfying situation for the rest of her life.

    Her life is not as bad as it could have beenโ€”she isnโ€™t married and she isnโ€™t dependent any longerโ€”but itโ€™s barely endurable. Yet itโ€™s not truly because of her status as a spinster. After all, Katherine remains resolutely unmarried and childfree. Instead, itโ€™s because, as she puts it, she never learned how to live.

    Many of us donโ€™t. There arenโ€™t many models to follow for those who choose the solo life. But we get one in Katherine Brooke.

    From isolation to adventure

    As much as I work to show that living a solo life can be fulfilling, loneliness (and the cynicism that often follows), is a real hurdle. If left untreated, it can turn anyone into a cold-hearted, closed-off miser. That almost happens to Katherine. But instead, someone reaches out to her and keeps on reaching out until she responds. And from there, Katherine Brooke turns her life around completely.

    After returning from Green Gables, Katherine leaves her unfulfilling job and goes back to college to take a secretarial course. Talking to Anne about this new direction, she says, โ€œLife owes me something more than it has paid me and Iโ€™m going out to collect it.โ€ When sheโ€™s finished, she gets a job working for โ€œa globe-trotting M. P.โ€ Katherine will achieve her dream of seeing the world at last.

    Ultimately, she ends up with a life thatโ€™s more fulfilling than she had ever imagined. When I think about the solo life, thatโ€™s exactly how I see it. Something that has the potential to be devastating, but can end up surpassing any childhood dreams.

    September is the time for transformations

    Iโ€™m so glad Nora started Spinster September. Alliteration aside, September is the perfect month for it. Whether itโ€™s the change in seasons, the return to school, or a lingering sense of gathering in the harvest, my thoughts naturally turn toward the future as winter starts to make its coming known. As a spinster, oneโ€™s future is always in oneโ€™s own hands, for better and for worse. With a little help from our dear Anne Shirley, Katherine Brooke changed the course of her life for the better. What a lovely reminder to the rest of us.

    Who’s your favorite fictional spinster? Let me know in the comments, or tag @the.american.spinster on Instagram or @americanspinster at BlueSky. Don’t forget the #spinsterseptember tag!

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  • You Are a Badass at Making Money | American Spinster Review

    You Are a Badass at Making Money | American Spinster Review

    Revisiting Jen Sinceroโ€™s Wealth Mindset in 2026

    Success coach Jen Sincero claims anyone can become rich using her wealth mindset. The American Spinster takes a closer look at her bestselling book, You Are a Badass at Making Money. Does it stand up to scrutiny?

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    I discussed some of the ideas in You Are a Badass at Making Money, by success coach Jen Sincero, back in 2019. That was in my post, How to Use Free Time as a Childfree Woman. I updated that post a couple of years ago with a few clarifications and a link to a YouTube video discussing the more negative aspects of the book, which my original review glossed right over.

    At the time, I had no plans to return to the book again. However, life threw me a curve ball. After a fruitful career as a professional content writer, I found myself jobless when my department was eliminated. I switched back to freelancing, but after years out of the saddle and now entering a very different professional landscape, I was floundering.

    One night, when panic was eating away at my reason, I remembered the audiobook tucked away on my phone. That book was what had helped me get out of my low-paying freelance work and into a good job in the first place, so I figured I might as well give it another listen.

    But first things first.

    Do you have a potato up your butt?

    Or, why you’re not a badass at making money… yet

    The video I linked to in my updated original review is โ€œRANT REVIEW: Do NOT Follow You Are a Badass at Making Money by Jen Sincero.โ€ The video, created by Savy Leiser of SAVY WRITES BOOKS, starts with a conversation between the fictional character Ivy the Boss Babe (a follower of Jen Sincero) and Savy.

    Ivy the Boss Babe says, โ€œThe first step to becoming more comfortable in your everyday life is to take the potato out of your anus. I know that society tries to tell us that keeping the potato inside of our anus is okay, but the truth is if you want to live a truly comfortable life, you have to take that step.โ€

    After a while of this type of talk, Savy cuts in with, โ€œThere is no potato in my anus! Can we move on to the next step please?โ€ When Ivy continues with her meaningless platitudes, Savy says, โ€œIvy, I donโ€™t think you know what youโ€™re talking about. Literally nobody I know has ever had a potato in their anus. Youโ€™re just making up problems that donโ€™t exist so that you can solve them easily.โ€

    What the “wealth mindset” really means

    The potato in the butt is the idea that we are all pushing money away psychically, afraid that our lives will get worse if we have more money, and that if we just let go of our fear of money and embrace a โ€œwealth mindset,โ€ we can finally allow ourselves to be rich.

    Itโ€™s a hilarious skit, and itโ€™s honestly on-point. Iโ€™ve read Savy Leiserโ€™s book, #SavvyBusinessOwner, and she seems perfectly sensible when it comes to money. So I fully believe her incredulity at this seemingly made-up problem. But the thing is, when I first read Jen Sinceroโ€™s book, I did have the metaphorical potato up my butt. Let me explain.

    Why was Jen Sincero poor? The answer may surprise you!

    In the years since I first read You Are a Badass at Making Money, Iโ€™ve realized the reason this self-help book worked so well for me while it seemed nonsensical to others. It was because I was in a similar situation as the author. We were both freelance writers for most of our careers. I was a white, college-educated woman living well below the poverty line, working jobs that barely paid and didnโ€™t utilize my skills, largely because I had personal issues surrounding money and self-worth. Basically, Jen Sincero and I were poor for similarโ€”and uncommonโ€”reasons.

    The real reason most people aren’t making money

    As I mentioned in my update on the last blog, I want to be so, so clear that generally people are not poor because they donโ€™t know how to be comfortable with money. Poverty is a systemic problem, not a personal one. Itโ€™s rooted in injustice under an unfair economic system that depends on a disadvantaged (and usually desperate) working class. Nearly everyone I worked with at low-paying jobs lacked access to better paying jobs (due to a lack of higher education, a lack of affordable childcare, discrimination due to disability, etc.). It wasn’t a psychological block. It was a systemic injustice. I, for the most part, didnโ€™t lack that access. I had simply taken to heart too many bad lessons about money, my competence, and my own worth.

    Jen Sincero’s “limiting belief”

    At one point in the book, Jen Sincero describes the belief that kept her poor. She realized that she subconsciously believed that if she were financially successful, her father would feel sad and unneeded, as his way of showing his affection was by being a good provider and giving her money.

    Badass money in the form of a roll of twenty-dollar bills

    In her review, Savy Leiser says, โ€œI donโ€™t know how to say this politely, but this is a โ€˜youโ€™ problem. Most people who donโ€™t have $85,000 arenโ€™t scared of having $85,000 because theyโ€™re worried their dad wonโ€™t want to give them money anymore.โ€ Savyโ€™s absolutely correct. The fact that Jen Sincero was able to use her advantages (such as an upper-middle class upbringing, a college education, etc.) when she worked through her personal issues around money does not mean that the same would be true for everyone. Or even most people. But as I said, I was in a similar boat.

    My personal potato

    Growing up, I had a caregiver who believedโ€”for whatever reason (probably projection)โ€”that I was a natural fraud. Because I made good grades in elementary school, they told me I was conning my teachers. If I made money at school by selling handmade key chains, they told me I was scamming my classmates. If I earned money for babysitting, they said I had grossly overcharged, even though it was the parents who set the rate. And because I was young and malleable when this started, I believed it.

    Twenty-dollar bill on a bed of flowers

    Eventually I stopped turning in my schoolwork because I was so ashamed of the way I was fooling my teachers into believing I was a good student. I also stopped charging anyone for anything I did. If an adult tried to pay me for helping them, I refused, feeling like I had somehow deceived them already just by making them think they owed me money for my work.

    What the anti wealth mindset can do

    When I reached adulthood, this caregiver insisted that my college professors went easy on me, which was the only reason I squeaked by with a degree at all. And though I graduated cum laude, I still partly believed that. And I definitely carried the belief that I did not deserve more money than it took to survive. In my early days of freelancing, I drastically undercharged. And when that left me taking on more work than I could handle just to make ends meet, I took that as confirmation that I didnโ€™t even deserve the pittance I was getting paid.

    Some of us do have potatoes up our butts, and they can be pretty tough to remove. So, yes, You Are a Badass at Making Money is a book that only works for a very particular demographic. I just so happened to be in it. Before reading it, I would never have applied for a job that utilized my skills and degree. In fact, when I did apply, I still felt like a horrible fraud. That was in spite of the interviewer asking why I was applying for a position I was blatantly over-qualified for.

    What I learned by re-reading 10 years later

    The most important things I got out of this book, both the first time I read it and re-reading it now, were…

    • not to feel so weird about charging fair prices for my work
    • to approach my work with excitement, as though Iโ€™ve already succeeded, rather than dread over potentially being outed as a fraud

    Iโ€™m sure those are obvious for many, but I routinely need to be reminded.

    Bouquet of flowers with hundred-dollar bills

    In some ways, the places where I disagreed with the author reassured me almost as much as the parts I was on board with. Charging $80,000 as a โ€œsuccess coach?โ€ Look, you can talk all day long about raising frequencies and working with only the most committed people, but thereโ€™s no way I wouldnโ€™t feel gross about it. Compared to that unchecked greed, charging a mid-market rate for an actual product looks fine.

    Now I’m a badass at making money, again

    At the end of the day, You Are a Badass at Making Money helped me get back into the so-called wealth mindset that says itโ€™s actually a good thing to be paid fairly for oneโ€™s work. Not just acceptable, but actively good. I had recently hemmed and hawwed my way out of a job, not because it wasnโ€™t a good fit, but because I felt like I would be taking advantage of a friend if I charged them for my work. But, since I couldnโ€™t afford to work for free, I didnโ€™t accept the work at all. Thatโ€™s kind of crazy (especially in this economy), but after years of direct deposit, a certain discomfort about invoicing people had crept back into my life. This book helped me cut that out quick.

    However, this lovely little self-help book is not without its flaws.

    Merriam-Webster? I barely know her!

    Disturbing definitions in You Are a Badass at Making Money

    Throughout the book, Jen Sincero shares a lot of definitions. This makes sense, as she teaches that our words and thoughts influence our wealth mindset. Unfortunately, she makes these definitions up herself. For example, she defines โ€œpower mongeringโ€ as โ€œwielding influence in a tyrannical and super mean way.โ€ When it actually means to wield or deal in power.

    But Jen decided that holding undue influence or control over other people doesnโ€™t count unless youโ€™re mean about it. Thatโ€™s a tidy way to avoid what ought to be an essential conversation about the relationship between money and power, as well as whether or not itโ€™s ever acceptable to use your money to gain power over someone else. I understand that such a conversation is beyond the scope of the book, but why bring it up, then? It seems deliberately dishonest.

    Re-defining “rich” to suit a success coach

    She also provides the following, central definition in chapter 1 โ€” โ€œRich: Able to afford all the things and experiences required to fully experience your most authentic life.โ€ This wishy-washy definition allows her to insist that rich people are โ€œjust people.โ€ They donโ€™t deserve to be judged, because, hey, you can be โ€œrichโ€ and make a modest five figures. Of course, thatโ€™s not what โ€œrichโ€ really means. Merriam-Webster defines that word as, โ€œhaving abundant possessions and especially material wealth.โ€ It means abundant wealth, not whatever you need to have a fulfilling life.

    Woman in a pink hooding throwing American money

    Saying that what the word โ€œrichโ€ really means is to be financially safe paves the way for her to later say that hating on rich people for being rich is wrong. It conflates rich people with people who can afford to live a moderate lifestyle, so we donโ€™t have to deal with uncomfortable questions about how much money and power is too much for one person to hold. I see what you did there, Jen.

    Badass? More like bad at identifying systemic inequality

    Generally, I disregarded her definitions. In most instances I mentally translated โ€œrichโ€ to mean โ€œfinancially stable.โ€ I also ignored the entries under โ€œgreedโ€ and โ€œcorruptโ€ in the Jen-Sincero Dictionary. In fact, I found myself translating quite a lot. One nugget of wisdom that required such a translation was, โ€œGreed comes from the same lack mindset as poverty.โ€ Maybe Iโ€™m just being pedantic, but I donโ€™t think poverty comes from a lack mindset. Poverty comes from wealth hording and systemic disenfranchisement. Hopefully she meant โ€œthe poverty mindset,โ€ but whether she did or not, thatโ€™s how it rang true to me.

    How to read You Are a Badass at Making Money

    Typically when I read something, I assume there are elements that wonโ€™t apply to me. I grew up long before social media algorithms and the โ€œbean-soup-ificationโ€ of content consumption, so when Jen started writing about things that didnโ€™t sit right with me, I disregarded them. I took the parts that were useful and left the rest where they lay. What were the parts that I didnโ€™t vibe with?

    In general, Iโ€™m fine with the concept of manifesting. I think of that in very plain-jane terms. If youโ€™re aiming at something, youโ€™re more likely to get there than if you were aiming somewhere else. Focusing on where you donโ€™t want to be is a good way to end up there unintentionally. So orienting yourself toward your goals is a good first step in attaining them.

    Unzipped purse with twenty-dollar bills inside

    The down side of manifestingโ€”or really, the dark side of itโ€”is that itโ€™s frequently used to excuse excessive wealth or justify misfortune, especially by mega-church pastors and success coaches. Itโ€™s much more apparent to me on this read-through that Jen Sincero really does mean it when she advises her readers to do whatever it takes. That absolutely includes taking advantage of people and then justifying those actions by saying that sheโ€™s vibing at a higher frequency, and everyone else should just join her there. If we were only โ€œconscious,โ€ weโ€™d all be fine. The implication seems to be that if you become swindled at any point, you just didnโ€™t have the right energy. Sounds like prosperity gospel to me, and I donโ€™t touch that.

    Do I recommend this book?

    Yes, actually. If youโ€™re like me and most of your financial issues stem from fear, uncertainty, and ignorance rather than from systemic devaluation of your labor, I think you could get a lot of good out of this book. But youโ€™ll need to use a lot of discernment as you go through it. That means deciding for yourself what your wealth mindset will look like. I recommend following the Buddhaโ€™s advice to believe nothing that anyone tells you unless it aligns with your own good sense.

    Proceed with caution, but do proceed

    And if you arenโ€™t sure about something, as long as it doesnโ€™t seem like it will harm anyone, give it a try. The first time I read You Are a Badass at Making Money, I was really struckโ€”in a negative wayโ€”by Jen Sinceroโ€™s story of cleaning up her image to sell her courses. She had previously been in a hair band called Crotch, and explained that she had to look more professional. I didnโ€™t like that. The idea of putting on a false front seemed so mis-aligned with everything else she was saying about being your authentic self and vibing with Universal Source to attract the life you want. Werenโ€™t there people out there who would like taking lessons from a success coach with an alternative style? I wouldโ€™ve.

    A stack of twenty-dollar bills tied with a red ribbon. Text reads: "Take Jen Sincero's financial advice with a grain of salt."

    According to Jen Sincero, youโ€™ve got to be willing to do what it takes, and that sometimes includes making yourself more palatable to the people who can hire you. So, although I was leery, I was willing to give it a try. After a little market research, I neutralized myself on important issues and generally tried to come across as more demure and professional. Now, I was never in a hair band and Iโ€™m not typically very aggressive in my writing, but even the small changes I made to my online personality felt wrong. So I stopped. I tried the advice, it didnโ€™t work for me, so I left it behind.

    Thatโ€™s what Iโ€™d advise you to do if you read this book.

    Of course, if youโ€™re looking for practical, down-to-earth advice on getting a business going, I also recommend the aforementioned #SavvyBusinessOwner: A Book for Small Business Owners! by Savy Leiser. I re-read that book during my return to the freelance world as well.

    A few last-minute notes, though

    In todayโ€™s world, where even something as innocuous as viewing a video can earn a creator money, I canโ€™t in good conscience recommend this author without quickly glancing at some of the less favorable things Jen Sincero has done. She has worked directly with multi-level marketing and (in my opinion) shady sales companies, which shouldnโ€™t be a surprise given that she markets herself as a success coach. Thatโ€™s a mark in the โ€œconsโ€ column for me, but itโ€™s also something that, sadly, quite a lot of people do. However, thereโ€™s one other weird thing I feel I should mention.

    The Jen Sincero book I assumed was just a joke

    When I saw that SAVY WRITES BOOKS had an entire playlist of Jen Sinceroโ€™s books, I thought Iโ€™d check out her review of The Straight Girlโ€™s Guide to Sleeping with Chicks. Iโ€™d seen the title before, but it truly never occurred to me that it was an accurate reflection of the contents of the book. I assumed it was a humorous title to grab attention. I figured the book was probably a portrait of the author as a young woman realizing that she was not straight.

    When I watched the video on it, I was flabbergasted by the apparent level of bi erasure andโ€ฆ misogyny? I still havenโ€™t read the book myself, so this is hearsay, and itโ€™s been 20 years since its publication. People can change a lot in that time. I donโ€™t see any evidence that she has changed her views, but hey, you never know. I simply felt like I should mention it so you can look into it for yourself if thatโ€™s a concern for you.

    My final verdict on You Are a Badass at Making Money

    So yes, overall, I do recommend You Are a Badass at Making Money if it sounds like something that could give you the courage and mental shift you need to make positive changes in your life. If you donโ€™t want to give Jen Sincero any royalties, buy your copy used or borrow it from the library. Just because someone does things that donโ€™t align with your moral code doesnโ€™t necessarily mean you can learn from them and turn what insight they have to good.

    This book was exactly the encouragement I needed to get past my regression into fear. Itโ€™s not surprising, given her work as an online course hucksterโ€”I mean success coachโ€”that Jen Sincero is a great motivational speaker. Thereโ€™s a reason she won an award for her narration. After I read it again, I felt like I had fully shaken off my doubt and fretting and was ready to dive back into freelancing for what I was worth.

    Have you read this book, another of Jen Sinceroโ€™s Badass books, or another wealth mindset book by a different author? What was your experience? Would you recommend it? If thereโ€™s another book youโ€™d like me to review, please let me know in the comments below.

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  • 15 Fantastic Gifts for Single Women

    15 Fantastic Gifts for Single Women

    What do you get for the single woman on your list? If she has everything, or you just don’t know her well, you might be stumped. That’s why I’ve created this list of 15 fantastic gifts for single women.

    What to Buy a Single Woman

    I don’t know about you, but when I’m stumped by what to get someone, I ask Google for ideas. “What to get for [fill in the blank demographic].” And list after list of ideas appear. But I noticed there’s not a whole lot out there for single folk. And a lot of people seem downright nervous about buying presents for us.

    The good news is, I’ve created a list of lovely gifts for single women. Use this for women you don’t know very well, women who have everything, or women who don’t seem to want anything.

    Ready? Here are my top 15 gifts for single women.

    {Pst! You’re entering the part of this post where I share the gifts I personally recommend. Some of these are affiliate links, some are not, but all are products I love. Please see my affiliate link disclosure here.}

    #15 –ย Adult Coloring Books

    It’s hard to go wrong with adult coloring books. They’re a simple way to unwind after a stressful day. You can choose a coloring book that matches your solo woman’s interests, or try something seasonal, like this Color Me Cozy: Adult Coloring Book.

    15 Fantastic Gifts for Single Women | The American Spinster

    Perfect for:ย The woman who wants to relax.

    #14 –ย ย You Are A Badass Every Day

    Jen Sincero’s Badass book series didn’t make the best sellers list for nothing. Now you can get all that motivation in this pocket-sized motivational book. Your solo friend will feel like the unconquerable goddess she is with this daily dose of inspiration.

    15 Fantastic Gifts for Single Women | The American Spinster

    Perfect for: The woman who’s destined for greatness.

    #13 – Snuggley Socks

    This is a pretty standard “I have no idea what to get you” gift, but it doesn’t need to be. As long as you know one thing about her, you can get a pair of socks that match her interests.

    Does she have a pup? Get her a pair of adorable dog socks. There’s a sock pattern for virtually everything in the world.ย Just avoid the typical winter sock patterns, and this can be a very thoughtful gift.

    15 Fantastic Gifts for Women | The American Spinster

    Perfect for: The woman who’s impossible to buy for.

    #12 – No-Water Plants

    We all know that one gal who loves plants but can’t seem to keep them alive. The last step before giving her an artificial ficus is the Smart Garden 9 from Click & Grow. This setup features automated lighting and a passive watering system, so she can set it and forget it!

    Perfect for: The woman who kills house plants like it’s her job.

    #11 – A Door Security Bar

    I mentioned this one in my last list, but it’s so good it’s worth repeating.ย The Master Lock Door Security Bar works best as a gift if you give it to someone you’re close to (or at least related to). I’ve used this club to keep uninvited maintenance workers from waltzing into my apartment for years. It’s never let me down.

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    Perfect for: Any woman who lives alone.

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    #10 – An Audiobook Subscription

    If you know a woman who has a long commute or who loves to read, but never has the time, give the gift of an audiobook subscription. Scribd is by far the best audiobook subscription service I’ve ever found. For a flat monthly fee, you get as many audio and e-books as you can handle.

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    Perfect for: The woman who loves to read but can’t find the time.

    #9 – Christmas Ornaments

    Like the snuggley socks idea, this is super easy to personalize. Is she a bookworm? Get a stack of books ornament. Does she love to run? Get her a runner’s ornament. If all else fails, you can always get an ornament with her name on it.

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    Perfect for: The woman who loves Christmas.

    #8 – A Luxury Blanket

    You just can’t go wrong with a warm, winter blanket. Go for something really plush and cruelty-free, like a faux-fur throw blanket.

    15 Fantastic Christmas Gifts for Single Women | The American Spinster

    Perfect for: The woman who always says she’s cold.

    #7 – A Copy of Spinster: Making a Life of One’s Own

    Kate Bolick’s brilliant book,ย ย Spinster: Making a Life of One’s Ownย is required reading for every single woman, whether she chose the solo life or the solo life chose her.

    Spinster: Making a Life of One's Own, by Kate Bolick

    Perfect for: The woman who’s flying solo.

    #6 – A Planner

    Staying organized is a challenge when you’re a working woman. Make your solo friend’s life a little easier with a one-year planner. If you know someone who likes keeping her life in order but doesn’t have time to journal, a planner will be a welcomed gift.

    15 Fantastic Gifts for Single Women | The American Spinster

    Perfect for: The woman who’s always on the go.

    #5 – A Mug Heater

    Where has this been all of my adult life? A simple little mug warmer will keep her coffee or tea mug warm while she works.

    15 Fantastic Gifts for Single Women | Mug Warmer

    Perfect for: The woman who loves her cup of joe.

    #4 – A Toaster Oven

    The thing about cooking for one is you really don’t need to heat the entire oven. I cook every meal in the microwave or the toaster oven. And let me tell you, I seriously love my toaster oven. It makes solo cooking so much more efficient.

    15 Fantastic Gifts for Single Women | The American Spinster

    Perfect for: The woman who loves to cook.

    #3 – A Food Subscription Box

    As I mentioned, I’m getting better about cooking lovingly for myself. But not every single woman has time to come home and prepare a meal for one. That’s where you come in with a food subscription box.

    15 Fantastic Gifts for Single Women | Subscription Boxes

    Perfect for: The woman who hates to cook.

    #2 –  Some Singles Swag

    I did a review of the Singles Swag subscription box earlier this year, and believe me when I tell you some of my single friends are getting Singles Swag for Christmas. What makes this such a great choice is it’s a gift that keeps on giving. Choose from a regular or petite box and monthly, 3 months, or 6 month subscription packages.

    Best Christmas Gifts for Single Women | The American Spinster

    Perfect for: The woman who loves nice things.

    #1 – A Monogram Door Hanger

    Single ladies, no matter how enlightened we are, still tend to see themselves as half of a whole. Remind your solo friend that she’s enough all own her own by putting her name up, loud and proud.

    Perfect for: The woman who needs a confidence boost.

    Thanks for Reading!

    Did you find anything helpful on this list? Anything I should add? Let me know in the comments below.

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  • Spinster: Making a Life of One’s Own | Book Review

    Spinster: Making a Life of One’s Own | Book Review

    Spinster: Making a Life of One’s Own is written by Kate Bolick. It’s categorized as Social Scienceโ€”Feminism & Feminist Theory, but it’s more than a sociological text. It’s a biographical, autobiographical, literary theory, and psychology text. Spinster asks the question, “What does it mean for a woman to truly live her own life?”

    This question comes on a very long history of women sacrificing their own wants and desires to fulfill the needs of their children, husbands, parents, and society. In the past, accepting a marriage meant becoming a motherโ€”something that would either end or limit a woman’s career. Bolick’s book shows that many spinsters might have been happy to marry (and some ultimately did), but refused because they were unwilling to subjugate their lives to the lives of others.

    In modern American culture, women can marry and retain their rights, money, and careers. We can choose not to have children. What, then, is a modern spinster? Bolick weaves her decades-long search for the answer in with the lives of five female writers who chose spinsterhood over marriage.

    {No spoilers, but I highly recommend this book! So expect to see some affiliate links in this post. You can read my affiliate links disclaimer here.}

    The American Spinster’s Thoughts on Spinster

    Normally, when people say a book “gives the reader a feeling of intimacy,” I read, “The author flung her most private moments onto the page in a crass manner, hoping to sound salacious.” That’s definitely not what happens in Spinster: Making a Life of One’s Own. Yet the book was truly intimate. By the time I’d finished it, Kate Bolick might have been a close friend I’d grown up with.

    She skillfully introduces her relationships (sexual, platonic, and familial) alongside the biographies of the literary spinsters who’ve influenced her. It’s not just a historical, nonfiction account of women who pioneered the spinster life in the United States. It’s also an account of how the author responded to their work and their lives. The result is an intimate, informative, thought-provoking look at the innate desire to truly be oneself.

    Spinster: Making a Life of One's Own, by Kate Bolick

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    Should you read Spinster: Making a Life of One’s Own?

    Throughout the book, Bolick deals with what she calls “the spinster wish,” which is “shorthand for the extravagant pleasures of simply being myself.” She struggles to understand why she isn’t happy being in a relationship with a man who seems like her perfect match. A man she’s in love with. Time and again, she turns to her group of five spinster writers from the 19th and 20th centuries.

    This book is perfect for anyone:

    • Interested in women writers, feminist theory, or women’s history
    • Struggling  to live on her own, financially or emotionally
    • Living in, or thinking about living in, a living-apart-together relationship
    • Harboring a secret “spinster wish”

    Even if you don’t see yourself as a spinster (or even single), it’s still an inspirational look at, as Bolick writes, “holding on to that in you which is independent and self-sufficient, whether you’re single or coupled.”

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  • Confessions of a Childfree Woman

    Confessions of a Childfree Woman

    What are the Confessions of a Childfree Woman?

    If you’re even remotely interested in the childfree lifestyle, you’ve got to read Confessions of a Childfree Woman: A life spent swimming against the mainstream. In this post, I’ll tell you:

    • Who the ‘confessor’ is
    • What the book is about
    • Why it’s important
    • Who should read it

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    Who’s the Confessor?

    In 1974, Marcia Drut-Davis gave an interview to 60 Minutes, discussing her choice to not have children. In spite of her calm tone and rational explanation for her choice, many viewers were outraged. She lost her job as a teacher when parents and school staff assumed (incorrectly) that a childfree woman must surely despise children.

    Despite receiving death threats for her childfree stance, Drut-Davis continued to advocate for a woman’s right to choose whether or not to bear and raise children. She has been a strong and steady voice in the movement.

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    What is Confessions About?

    Confessions of a Childfree Woman is the deeply touching, honest, and personal story of Marcia Drut-Davis’ life as a childfree woman. She shows the reader how she came to the decision not to have children and how that decision affected her life, for better and for worse. If you’re curious about what the private lives of the childfree really look like, read Confessions.

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    What Makes This Book Important?

    Though Marcia Drut-Davis doesn’t pretend she speaks for all childfree women, her book does answer the question, “But aren’t you afraid you’ll regret being childless when you’re older?” I’ll let the book’s ending speak for itself, but Drut-Davis’ life and experiences may assuage the fears of the would-be childfree woman as well as the worried, grandchild-less parent.

    Should You Read Confessions of a Childfree Woman?

    If you’ve read this post this far, you’ll probably enjoy Confessions. This book is ideal for anyone who is:

    • Curious about the childfree lifestyle
    • Worried about regretting the choice to be childfree
    • Looking for a childfree role model

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